Spreading Joy Column
March 17th 2011
A families Bountiful Love
Have you ever seen that family at the grocery store that you admire? The family who speaks calmly and patiently to their children, who look lovingly at them as if they are treasured just as they were meant to be. Well I know I have seen many different families at the grocery store some from one spectrum to the other. Some have children that despise shopping and anything to do with it and proceed to make sure that everyone knows it. Some have children that don’t say a peep, and some are right in the middle. No family is every perfect, no child will ever be an angle and no parent will always say the perfect thing, it is just a massive learning curve for everyone involved and a lot of common sense, oh and don’t forget patience, but most of all love and respect. I know of just a family, my friend just recently shared with me a huge decision that their family has come to. So let me give you a little back ground on this family. They are a family of five, in the process of restoring a home. This has them living in tight quarters, and their ever growing needs never cease to arise. They are a family of faith and have a firm hold on their spirituality and beliefs. They are a collective part of their church and provide assistance to the members of their community. They are a busy family involved in sports and school programs, on top of their already busy lives. I have always thought that mothers who ran 24/7 for their children were a rare bread and I admire them profoundly. So when I opened the email that she sent I was in tears. She began to tell me of a little boy whom they knew, he was in the care of family who’s health was ailing. The little boy is fatally ill as well, and his life may be up for another transition, as the caregivers are ill enough that they can no longer care for him properly. This family requested that my friends family adopt this child. So I will share a brief history on the child, he is fatally ill, he has suffered abuse, turmoil, abandonment and he is barely grown. So my friends family had a huge decision to make, they weighed all the pro’s and con’s and examined it with a fine tooth comb. They face so many obstacles, as does he. He could be placed into the system where the on slot of his life could spiral out of control until he leaves this earth. Or he could live in a home with a family who can love, and provide for him and comfort him until he passes away, leaving this earth knowing that his life mattered not because of what happened to him but for the people who love and supported him until his last breath. They knew they would face so much tragedy by agreeing to adopt this young boy but they knew his life and what he has left to live was more important than any tears and pain that they may endure. I sat trembling at my desk reading this long email of their gut wrenching decision process but at the end I had never felt more proud then I did at that moment. These are the type of people who make this world a better place. They saw an opportunity to change the life of another human being from bleak, dark and empty. They have now given him the ability to hope again, to die in peace and with dignity, after so many awful people took that from him from birth.
I can tell you my world shines a whole lot brighter knowing there are people such as these in it. People who open their homes for adoption or fostering, take a huge bargain, they open their homes, hearts and souls to caring for these children who have faced very unfortunate lives up to that point. When the time comes for them to move onto an adoptive family and start their life a new, if can erupt many emotions., loss, and grief but what I can hope for is this, that they know that all the love, caring, support and guidance that they provided that child will never be forgotten. These are learning an growing experiences that take profound people to be apart of, and I have no doubt that my friends will be able to give this young boy a chance for happiness and joy he may never have had other wise. I am so very proud of my dear friends.
Thank you to all my readers, I wish you all well, please reach out to those in need, and never stop trying to make a difference in this world, we only get one chance to make it beautiful.