Alex Allman Sex & Relationships Counsellor and Author of Revolutionary Sex For Her wrote in his newsletter this week an article called:
Yes many can relate this statement or question- Why women sometimes stop their partners or
themselves just when it looks like they are
about to orgasm...
He wrote the article in response to one of his guy readers questions who wanted to know why. What a mature guy I say and caring as well.
Alex responded to him and said this is information which could help ,yes you read right ,men become "better lovers..."no more slam bam thank you mam.
Women this will also help us understand why as well and empower us in being the sultry sexual vixens we are, kind of like the sultry Deliliah as well as totally sexually empowered divas knowing how to enjoy blow your mind sexual intimacy.
Alex's response is also help to enhance better - Sex, love, intimacy as well as how to take your relationship to
the next level...
The question by the reader is:
Hey My name is [...], and when i'm fingering or
going down on my girlfriend sometimes she will
make me stop because the sensation is too strong for
her to handle. Does that mean she reached the
point of orgasm and is too sensitive to continue
Some women do, in fact, get overly sensitized
after orgasm and find continued contact too much
to handle for a short while and need to take a
break. But this is uncommon.
More likely is that she is right on the edge of
orgasm and is unable to cross over to the other
This kind of "pleasure panic" is incredibly
common. Orgasm, for many women, is a huge act of
surrender. She is not comfortable losing
control of herself that way.
Especially in front of you. But often women
can't do it alone either. They just PANIC when
they feel the rush of the oncoming orgasm.
(Often women can have shallow orgasms, but
when something monster big is coming, or when
they are already coming but feel a "stacked"
orgasm that will notch them up into a higher
level, they feel that sense of panic that they
just won't be able to handle it).
That's why so much of my book for men is
about earning her complete "Sexual Trust".
Once you do that, she will surrender herself
to you completely and you can gently guide her
across her fears to the other side-- and she will
have mind-blowing pleasure.
Learning to build Sexual Trust is the key to
most of the advanced sexual knowledge that you
will ever encounter...
Learning to hold space for her to experience
things she might not even be able to do alone,
and learning how to give her CERTAINTY that you'll
be strong and calm afterwards if she experiences
some wild emotions from it... these things can't
just be faked, and they are much more important
than some finger, tongue, or thrusting techniques.
And if you spend a little time working at it,
you will give her her very first orgasm. Which
is pretty cool."
Hope you gained some insight,no more faking and here's to many oh !la! la moments.
You can read Alex's" Revolutionary Sex For Her" at my link list to the left .Enjoy!!