Why Some Women Sometimes Say Stop When They Are About To Orgasm

Why Some Women Sometimes Say Stop When They Are About To Orgasm

Santa Monica : CA : USA | Jan 29, 2011 at 11:40 AM PST
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Alex Allman Sex & Relationships Counsellor and Author of Revolutionary Sex For Her wrote in his newsletter this week an article called:

"Pleasure Panic: Why Some Women Say Stop"

Yes many can relate this statement or question- Why women sometimes stop their partners or

themselves just when it looks like they are

about to orgasm...

He wrote the article in response to one of his guy readers questions who wanted to know why. What a mature guy I say and caring as well.

Alex responded to him and said this is information which could help ,yes you read right ,men become "better lovers..."no more slam bam thank you mam.

Women this will also help us understand why as well and empower us in being the sultry sexual vixens we are, kind of like the sultry Deliliah as well as totally sexually empowered divas knowing how to enjoy blow your mind sexual intimacy.

Alex's response is also help to enhance better - Sex, love, intimacy as well as how to take your relationship to

the next level...

The question by the reader is:


Hey My name is [...], and when i'm fingering or

going down on my girlfriend sometimes she will

make me stop because the sensation is too strong for

her to handle. Does that mean she reached the

point of orgasm and is too sensitive to continue


- D

Alex's REPLY:


Some women do, in fact, get overly sensitized

after orgasm and find continued contact too much

to handle for a short while and need to take a

break. But this is uncommon.

More likely is that she is right on the edge of

orgasm and is unable to cross over to the other


This kind of "pleasure panic" is incredibly

common. Orgasm, for many women, is a huge act of

surrender. She is not comfortable losing

control of herself that way.

Especially in front of you. But often women

can't do it alone either. They just PANIC when

they feel the rush of the oncoming orgasm.

(Often women can have shallow orgasms, but

when something monster big is coming, or when

they are already coming but feel a "stacked"

orgasm that will notch them up into a higher

level, they feel that sense of panic that they

just won't be able to handle it).

That's why so much of my book for men is

about earning her complete "Sexual Trust".

Once you do that, she will surrender herself

to you completely and you can gently guide her

across her fears to the other side-- and she will

have mind-blowing pleasure.

Learning to build Sexual Trust is the key to

most of the advanced sexual knowledge that you

will ever encounter...

Learning to hold space for her to experience

things she might not even be able to do alone,

and learning how to give her CERTAINTY that you'll

be strong and calm afterwards if she experiences

some wild emotions from it... these things can't

just be faked, and they are much more important

than some finger, tongue, or thrusting techniques.

And if you spend a little time working at it,

you will give her her very first orgasm. Which

is pretty cool."

Hope you gained some insight,no more faking and here's to many oh !la! la moments.

You can read Alex's" Revolutionary Sex For Her" at my link list to the left .Enjoy!!

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