What men expect today was practically unheard on in my younger days. They want to meet you, see if you fit their criteria, and want to have sex. Oh they will call you back if it is to their satisfaction, but you do not have much to say in the matter. And to be seen in public with them, oh no. It seems like another undercover brother happening. You can come to their house, but late night, you know like the traditional booty call, but you get their late and you are expected to leave very early. They will give you all kinds of lame excuses as to why they have to get up so early and will even get in their car in hopes that you believe them. It is so sad, because if they were that great, they could probably demand that, but if you can barely get it up, only engage in the act once, and then actually fall asleep. You need a serious reality check. I am told they feel they can do this because there are so many women to one man. Ladies, let's not give them that power. Have some kind of say if you are in this type of situation. Be treated with more respect and dignity. You do not have to be in the shadows, you are not an illegal substance. Be proud of who you are and know that you do not have to gravel to be with a man. Especially if they do not more to offer than five minutes of their satisfaction to themselves. If you do choose this type of relationship because you do not want to be seen with them, you feel you would be teased by family and friends,you get some of the best loving imagined, or you are just cool with it then more power to you. We must all remember what is done in the dark, will come to the light.