The fact that my sister's boyfriend may have mistreated her and used her did make it a little uncomfortable to deal with publicly. I stared at Adam, back in highschool, and I also tried to embrace him for who he was but because he treated her so poorly, I went over to his house after school one day, and politely asked if we could talk about his family, his mom, his dad, and grandparents too. We talked for a good hour or so and I began to get the feeling that this guy had been tramatized severely and that he wasn't to blame for the hurt in my sister's life. Where was the root of all this pain? Where was it traced back to besides an Uncle who had molested him and beat him when he was only five years old?