Spotlighting Sex, Romance and Flirting in a Workplace an Advantage?
Because of the David Letterman's involvement of "sextortion", conversation about sex, romance and flirting are now becoming popular especially in workplaces.
Nicole Williams, a career expert and author of "Girls on Top: Your Guide to Turning Dating Rules into Career Success" said it's a good news because media is all-eyes on Letterman regarding an issue that is relevant and pervasive as ever. She said nearly eight million American engaged romance at start of work. Furthermore, Williams said the chemistry and energy of flirtation and sexuality is a driver in the workplace.
CNN interviewed Williams regarding this matter, rules that can make this matter less dangerous and questions she has about what's happened in "Late Show" offices.
Some of the highlights are as follows;
1. Romances, flirting and sex happens in workplaces because it's human nature, inevitable.
2. Trading sex for a promotion is essentially prostitution but is not sexual harassment unless the woman claims discrimination.
3. Majority of managers, bosses and in higher positions are men, wherein whoever possess power always win.
4. Companies know that relationships might arise from workplaces that's why they imply rules and regulation, such that there will be no "conflict of interest" at work.
5. Because of touch economy and possible backlash, women often flirt with co-workers especially with bosses to keep their job.
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All I can say is that if both parties do agree to have a relationship, have sex, flirt or whatever, they should be at least responsive or mature enough to handle that matter.
That's Kinda Weird..
It is weird snow_white, but it's true.. women themselves said that they do flirt to keep their job..
It should be left at a hotel/motel and be respectful towards your other co workers.
Ahaha.. motel/hotel or anywhere but private.. thank you sharon..
Unfair isn't, changez? well, that's how it works..
It is the power differential that determines harrassment. The person in the power position is more typically male (unfortunately).
Yeah, you're right Billie but then again, if the woman wants that, the poor male will be charge of harassment, it's kinda unfair for the male species.
Thanks for the comment, lady.. appreciated! :)
Moshacss, thank you for commenting my news. :)
The problem with that rroxas is that if the woman wants to blackmail the male boss, the latter doesn't have any choice but to obey just for him not to put his position in vain.
I agree that both parties are involved, but in the end one party can say No! If it's forced it's harassment! Unfortunately many people misuse their power position, by sexual harassing the other party. Even words with a sexual indication is wrong and shoud'nt come from a person with a power position unless it's done in mutual understanding and willingness! Otherwise it is and will always be abuse! Man or Woman!
very well said ester, thank you so much..
ohh gosh, this is a touchy subject.. In my opinion, it's NEVER a good idea to "hook up" with someone you work with..unless (and this is a big one--unless BOTH parties are MATURE enough, as rroxes08 already said) to handle the heat when the kitchen catches on fire.
Any kind of office romance or whatever, should be done OUTSIDE the workplace. You take took much of a risk while at work. There is no real privacy anyways, so you might as well take it elsewhere! And another thing-there is no such thing as "innocent flirting."
I once heard this term at a company I worked at about 10 years ago. The touching, massages on the opposite sex, the long gazes, pats on the behind--all that- is NOT "innocent". People who engage in these kinds of activities certainly are asking, or secretly hoping for MORE.
There once was a guy I worked with who always squeezed my shoulders when he passed me by and I used to tell him to stop. He said he did it because I was "cute" and he didn't mean any harm by it. It was "innocent fun.", he claimed. "Sure," I said, "It's all fun and games until someone gets hurt!"
Office romances and I never worked out. Tried them twice and that's it for me, ya'll. I ain't going down THAT ROAD anymore. I've learned my lessons but for people who like to play Russian Roulet, go ahead.
Any kind of office romance or whatever, should be done OUTSIDE the workplace. You take took much of a risk while at work. There is no real privacy anyways, so you might as well take it elsewhere! And another thing-there is no such thing as "innocent flirting."
I once heard this term at a company I worked at about 10 years ago. The touching, massages on the opposite sex, the long gazes, pats on the behind--all that- is NOT "innocent". People who engage in these kinds of activities certainly are asking, or secretly hoping for MORE.
There once was a guy I worked with who always squeezed my shoulders when he passed me by and I used to tell him to stop. He said he did it because I was "cute" and he didn't mean any harm by it. It was "innocent fun.", he claimed. "Sure," I said, "It's all fun and games until someone gets hurt!"
Office romances and I never worked out. Tried them twice and that's it for me, ya'll. I ain't going down THAT ROAD anymore. I've learned my lessons but for people who like to play Russian Roulet, go ahead.
Thank you for sharing your experience, cloud..
Hello, shall i address you spike for the sake of this site? it is one touchy topic you have here. Honestly, i do not know what to comment. I had been a product of a corporate world before i jumped in as a call center agent. Finance Dept. Seeing the difference between the two industry, if i am still with my previous employer, personally, it is unethical to have a sexual relations inside the work place. One main reason is the nature and the flow of work. It would definitely produce, as your post put it, a conflict of interest. I would beg to disagree item no. 5 "Because of touch economy and possible backlash, women often flirt with co-workers especially with bosses to keep their job." I had known a lot of corporate women. It is a competitive world and statistically, women, on this era, competes. Women do not need to flirt to keep their job or to help us be promoted. Mainly because we are also in the front lines of competition, not because of flirting but because women can also be competitive. I know that not because of what i read but because of what i saw in my years of working, from a legal office to corporate - finance division - to call centre industry.
Keep up your hard work with allvoices. You are doing a great job. Proud of you!
Keep up your hard work with allvoices. You are doing a great job. Proud of you!
Thanks mommy Shirley, I do appreciate your support. :)
I have to agree with someone above who said simply that office romances are difficult and tricky. It is better to avoid them or then figure out mutually acceptable ways of avoiding open conflict. Also those kind of relationships should never be pursued in the workplace, since it is impossible to know the reaction of someone who might be very different in their private life. As Shirley says, it may also hamper the work. However sexual harassment needs to be treated equally between men and women, since either may be subject to it. As BE said it is often the power positions that determine the conduct, and men are more likely to be in positions of power, unfortunately. But if the opposite is true, it should be dealt with in the same way, not brushed off.
yeah you're right dude.. it should be dealt with in the same way..
Did any of ya'll see a movie called "Disclosure", starring Michael Douglas, Demi Moore, Donald Sutherland, from 1994. This is a CLASSIC thriller all about sexual harassement in the workplace. Demi Moore's character,Meredith, is a former lover turned boss over Michael Douglas' character. Things turn ugly one night, after Meredith threatens him to have sex with her or "suffer consequenses for his actions" by saying no.
If ya'll haven't seen this movie, go rent it or buy it. It's an in-your-face-honestly-written piece of work by the late Michael Crighton. Go look it up on www.imdb.com
I do not condone office or workplace romances and such anymore. When I was younger and naive, it didn't really sink in how bad they were. I would tell young people NOT to do it but some did not listen to my story. Anyway..
you're welcome, spike-breaker08
If ya'll haven't seen this movie, go rent it or buy it. It's an in-your-face-honestly-written piece of work by the late Michael Crighton. Go look it up on www.imdb.com
I do not condone office or workplace romances and such anymore. When I was younger and naive, it didn't really sink in how bad they were. I would tell young people NOT to do it but some did not listen to my story. Anyway..
you're welcome, spike-breaker08
I will try to watch the movie, cloud9devine.. I, too doesn't tolerate romances in workplaces. As an employee, I've seen too many relationship in offices that result in anger, confusion and complication.
thank you for your comment hmkoct5. hope to see more articles from you.. :)
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