Teen music and connecting generations

September 3, 2009 DC Knierim

For the current generation, teens have electronics as part of their clothing and accessories. Clothes are made today with actual pockets for electronic devises in mind. Strategically placed holes in shirts, pants, and backpacks allow music and conversations to go on without interruption and they have become the norm. Years ago no one would have panicked if they had forgotten a cell phone. If someone could not reach you on the phone attached to the wall, well we just talked to them later.

With these new technological advancements music has changed tremendously. The way it is listened to, purchased, and yes even created is new and some would say improved and some may say ruined depending.

Music has always been an important part of a teen’s world and nothing has changed in 2009. It is very important for parents to connect with their teen and appreciate their music. For generations past you have seen a huge gap in what a teen and their parent listens to. It has often caused a riff between how they communicate. You can learn a lot about yourself and your teen if you can take a few moments, ask them about their music and take some time for music appreciation. Take the time to talk with them about what they listen to, how it affects them, and why it is important to them.

You may not see eye to eye on music genre but learn to listen and be open to their thoughts. Even if you are not 100% feeling it, do not say anything negative. Be honest about it but appreciate it for something they really like. Say what you can positively connect to. The beat, the lyric, the energy of the song are things that you as a parent can relate to in some way. Music is a part of us so when something you really enjoy is criticized it hurts and this should be a way for you to appreciate what they listen to not harshly freak on them. Also it can be a time when you could gently guide them or become aware of something concerning in their deep feelings so listen and really hear what they are saying. Music reveals a lot about our inner feelings and desires. Encourage them to also connect in the same way with Aunts, Uncles, Grandparents, and family members.

Don’t know how to download music learn so after sharing the genres of the past if your teen likes it you can offer to download it for them. Learn how to use an IPOD so they can download their music for you too. Anytime you can connect with your teen it is important.

Gaining an appreciation to what your teen listens to can be an important connection for you as their parent. The understanding and appreciation you can gain of what moves their soul can be something important for you to know. Surprise them and when you get into the car play something they like and dance to it. They may be embarrassed. You may hear, “Mom/Dad never dance like that again in the car or anywhere, stop please!” You could say, “I’m just be-bopping to your music, its great!” As you both smile secretly they will be happy you are enjoying something they really like and a connection will be made. It may end your dancing in the car career however but it will be a way to relate and share.

Music is inspiration and we all need a little of that. You can also share some tunes from your youth with them. Some great pieces have been remade recently and you can play the original and yes in your home not in public please include the dance move that went with it. It will make a great evening moment.

Music hits home on a very deep level. For years it has touched souls, made romances, and gotten us through break ups. It plays a deep role in our lives regardless of who you are or what your background. This is a perfect way for you and your teen to connect and it is worth every moment you need to make or take. Generations connecting through moments in time, it’s worth it.

For more information check out these links!

http://www.straightroads.org/parents_guide/index.html

George A. Palombo

Executive Director, American Center for Character & Cultural Education

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