Family Relationships

The child is like the soft piece of clay. The main society around this child is the family and this family is what develops the child's character and who he/she is. What is this child's society? This society is the family, first and foremost the parents

The first one consists of the father, that gave him/her life. In most families the father is the person that is the boss of the family. The father is the main person for financing the child, this may make the father seem distant to the child because of working day and sometimes into the night. The second one is the mother that carried the child in her womb and gave birth to the child. The child gets from the mother more contact than with the father usually. The mother is the one that provides more emotional development for the child than the father because she is there more often and is softer than the husband. The love of a mother and child is a special love. It is not that which is between the husband and wife. That love may be from the lips or because the husband can buy things and provide for the wife. The love of a mother and child is the love that cannot be broken. This love is felt as no other love in life. The most pure love in the earth is the love to god and the love to her child.

The child may be his mother or his father's child. I mean the child may take after his father or his mother. Not only in the physical attributes, but also in the characteristics of behavior. I am proud I take after my mom.

The children that take after their fathers tend to need to be more in control with their lives. The problem with this is if the father was hard, then the children grow to be hard like the father. When the child takes after him, he will just take only how to be hard. This will effect him so badly. This can be a problem for the female children and them trying to control their husbands when they marry. Also when this causes the female children to be hard, then the next generation may have two parents that are hard and this causes even more problems in the next generation.

I want to talk about the responsibilities of each member of the family.

The Father: Provides money for family. Gives love to all family members.Satisfy the wife/mother so she doesn't look outside her bedroom. Keep family safe from others that may hurt them.

The Mother: Take care of the children and give them all the love, affection, and attention that they need. Satisfy the husband so he does not go looking outside the bedroom. Keep her heart and herself for her husband and do not show her beauty to others and try to entice them to look at her body with bad thoughts. To maintain emotional stability in the house. Keep house clean. Keep all fed. Keep all presentable to society as a well maintained family. Teach humility, to be humble, to give in charity, to show compassion, to comfort, to give guidance, to be the backbone of the home and what holds the family together. Teach prayers and the greatness of god.

The children: The principal role of children is to bring honor to their families. To be good achievers. Exhibit good behavior. Contribute to the family's well being with happiness and cheer. Be obedient. Accept conformity

There is something in common between the mother and the father. To teach the right and wrong to the children and to teach the purpose of this life. However, we have to know what created the weak relationships among the family. The first reason; is there is no love between the husband and the wife. When there is no love between the husband and wife then there is not a model of love to look for when these children grow older. These children will be hard and not know the true meaning of love in life. If one of the parents does not love the other parent. This will cause struggles between them all the time and there will not be stability in the family. Second reason is if one of the parents or both of them are hard, this will destroy the family. Because of one of them can't forgive and this will make big problems all the time. The third reason, if there is no trust between the parents and this will kill the love in the family and teach the children to never trust in life.

All of this will affect so badly the children and this will make problems for jealousy, envy, and other emotional disturbances. So I hope that each husband and wife takes care of their children and the way they act with them. Remember your behavior not only affects your spouse, but it affects your children now and in the future. If you want your children to be emotionally stable in the future you must now look at how you act with them and how you act with your spouse. It is your choice to make your child a detriment to society or to make your child a model of society that is valued and appreciated in life. You are in god's hands, but your children are in your hands.