Comments Related To: mistress wants sex friends

marriage is more then just getting physical with one another, there are so many ways of not keeping it boring! there should be loyality, with out it life is sick and disgusting!

I agree with mona37. Yes, marriage is more than the physical aspect, but all relationships, I think, are more than just the sensual. This response has two parts -- personal experience and then a direct response to the article.


From a personal experience, I was riding the fine line between friendship and relationship with someone who was my friend because we were both aware that there was something more between us. We just never brought it up or confronted our feelings. One night, he got drunk, and we started getting physical. However, I hesitated because he was drunk; before that time, he had never touched me, so I didn't want this to happen just because he was drunk and have him wake up the next day to tell me he had no feelings for me. Long story short, I found out that after that night, he thought I didn't want a physical relationship so that's why he ignored me for the next couple of days. It's a complicated situation, but all in all, I couldn't help but think repeatedly, "Is a physical relationship all he wants? He's going to just ignore me from now on because he thinks I don't want to be more intimate with him?"


Relationships aren't all about touching and making out and having sex. There's emotion and compassion and understanding that go into it. I refused to do anything with him if I didn't know what his feelings for me were. At times, I regret my decision (of not going farther), but at other times, I think I made the right choice -- especially if he decided to drop me because he misunderstood my hesitation for lack of a desire for physical action.


Bringing it back to this article, if a person gets "bored" in a relationship with his lifelong companion that he made promises of fidelity to, he should work on how to make his relationship more heated and exciting -- not look for other women. The problem is within the relationship, so he should work with his wife to fix it.


Sleeping with a mistress is the easy way out, and I think a person who cheats because of marital problems is a coward.


Now, if a person cheats because he has feelings for two women, I may or may not understand this; I know it is hard when you feel emotionally connected to two people, but that is a completely different scenario that is not brought up in this article and is beside this point. Thus, relating to what this write-up says, if you want something to remain a secret and not be gossiped about, it's probably something that should not be done in the first place.