Comments Related To: Women Have to Learn How to Orgasm

That was a very insightful article. I have always found it hard to get women to be honest about what turns them on and how to get them to orgasm. In all my experience i can safely say there are only 2, maybe 3 girls who have genuinely orgasmed with me...I had a blast with them. It makes things so much simpler if a woman is up front about it, or at least some of it, since it's different for everyone. It's easy for guys to be 'happy' but it's not really fulfilling if the other person isn't satisfied as well. It breeds feelings of self-doubt, leading to thoughts of inadequacy and eventually trust issues. More relationships hit the rocks because of this than anything else I should think.

Lovely article that warrants my comment...my experience with telling men what pleases me has been this over the years: a woman must gently tell the man, or his ego gets upset that he has to be 'told' and isn't recognized as the Greatest Lover who intuitively knows how to please. Then, when the woman has the courage and finesse to express herself in this regard, the partner will disregard it anyway and go about chomping as if you are a cheeseburger. Oh yes, he will say "sweetie, just tell me what pleases you" ... only to have it ignored. To repeat oneself, even gently and ever aware of the man's ego (which is usually way larger than the penis) then the man gets turned off and accuses the woman, in this vulnerable position, of nagging. So what's a woman to do??? Yes, masturbation is the answer. It is love of oneself, and the process connects the masturbater/masturbatee to higher energies than assisting a man to shoot his seed, roll over satisfied, and snore. To say what pleases you, have it ignored is a very personal offense. So, all you Don Juan wannabe's out there, take heed. Talk is cheap if you ask a woman what pleases her, don't use it against her, but LISTEN and get over your ego that tells you lies about yourself, like that you are the world's best lover and a gift to women. Put your egos aside and BE a true gift to women. I can give more information, but will end on this note. If you want to know more of this information, visit my website and email me and I will perhaps blog about it if there are enough requests: www.aveguevara.com

now we're being told how we should orgasm, holy shi-! it's much easier than the babble of a therapist, find a man who KNOWS WHAT HE IS DOING!

There are two parts to this. Some women don’t know (lack of experience or other reasons) that they need to achieve a balance between relaxation and tension to truly achieve an orgasm. You just can’t lie there and just relax. The tension is very important for arousal. By tension I mean a good amount of buttock, leg and abdominal tension. This tension really is what leads women to an orgasm. The other part is the man. The man needs to be fully with the women both in mind and in body. They key issue here is that that most men don’t have the stamina to keep penetrating for 10-20min to get the women to climax. Most stats (correct me) I have seen state that 25% of women only achieve orgasm during intercourse and another 25% through other means. What is most interesting is that 50% of women will climax if they receive penetration for ten minutes...another two third if the guy keeps going for more than 15min.

Thats the wonderful report about topic. The strength of writer is amazing.

At a tender young age, my mother told me sex is another chore like doing the dishes. I refused to believe that and set out to discover it for myself. Long story short (another book perhaps!) I have had 2 out of body experience orgasms, amongst many smaller ones. The tension is important, yessiree. Those 2 out of bodies I believe is the essence of a TRUE orgasm. I was satisfied if I never had another one, as I considered them a 10.9 on the Richter scale, whereas all the others ranged from 2.3-maybe 5.6's. I consider myself lucky to have experienced these two 'events', because most people may define orgasms as those only reaching a 3.

This is a great topic to share about, eternally interesting to get people to come out and discuss it like gardening. Then we all wouldn't be so isolated in our own secrecy thinking everyone else has it better and something is wrong with us. Hurrah!

SURVEY: Should my next book be "THE ENTIRE SEX LIFE OF AN AMERICAN WOMAN"? It would also be the sequel to THE CHE DIARIES, a different title would probably be better.

At a tender young age, my mother told me sex is another chore like doing the dishes. I refused to believe that and set out to discover it for myself. Long story short (another book perhaps!) I have had 2 out of body experience orgasms, amongst many smaller ones. The tension is important, yessiree. Those 2 out of bodies I believe is the essence of a TRUE orgasm. I was satisfied if I never had another one, as I considered them a 10.9 on the Richter scale, whereas all the others ranged from 2.3-maybe 5.6's. I consider myself lucky to have experienced these two 'events', because most people may define orgasms as those only reaching a 3.

This is a great topic to share about, eternally interesting to get people to come out and discuss it like gardening. Then we all wouldn't be so isolated in our own secrecy thinking everyone else has it better and something is wrong with us. Hurrah!

SURVEY: Should my next book be "THE ENTIRE SEX LIFE OF AN AMERICAN WOMAN"? It would also be the sequel to THE CHE DIARIES, a different title would probably be better.