The survey, I am not sure, how scientific it is.
The size of the sample and cultural back ground seems inadequate for any real conclusions.
The answers need not be correct.
If women go out with men without being unaware of the men’s interest in them for more than sex, you can not expect them to be aware of the feelings for men to enable them to answer the questions!
However some interesting points:
1.The age old wisdom that there is no such thing as ’ friend ship with out sex between men and women’ is true.
2. Middle aged Men’s interest in women who are younger remain the same if they are Single than the younger men.
3.Interestingly Women’s interest in Men remain the same at all ages!
Specific questions on a married men’s/women’s interest in the opposite sex might have elicited interesting information.
Sex is the basic instinct.
You can not help it.
It is as good as bas as Hunger.
Your study does not change it or your awareness of it.
Sex is neither a sin nor is it sacred,
So long as it does not affect you emotionally,socially( which is very rare), i
Women, however, are more likely to consider their friendships with men as platonic – and only hoped for more if their own relationship was in trouble.
The scientists’ findings mirror the plot of 1989 film When Harry Met Sally, in which Harry, played by Billy Crystal, tells Meg Ryan’s Sally: ‘Men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.’
The researchers said the study had ‘potential negative consequences’ for people in long-term relationships.
They said the impact of work, hobbies and university has seen friendships between men and women reach unprecedented levels.
But our mating instincts, which have evolved over hundreds of thousands of years, may get in the way.
n a survey, 88 pairs of young male and female friends were asked to rate their attraction to each other in a confidential questionnaire.
Men – whether attached or single – were more likely to be attracted to their female friends and want to go on a date with them than the other way around.
They also assumed their female friends were more romantically interested in them than they actually were – and women tended to be unaware of this
Single and attached women showed the same level of attraction to their male friend. But attached women tended only to want something to come of that attraction if their relationship was in trouble.
Women were also less attracted to attached men.
A second questionnaire for 140 middle-aged people, who were almost all married, found levels of attraction between male and female friends fairly equal. Middle-aged men’s attraction to their female friends was much lower than that of the younger men, except among those who were single.
For women, levels of attraction had stayed the same.
Participants of both questionnaires said they gained benefits from friendship with the opposite sex including getting good advice and boosting their confidence, according to the study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.
Those who did harbour a secret crush were five times more likely to see it as a potential problem than a benefit. But more men than women saw it as a perk.
The authors of the study, from the University of Wisconsin, said films and television programmes had helped instill the idea that normal friends can easily become ‘friends with benefits’ – friends who have sex with each other.