Report by JENIFERLAMUG
Is a mother justified for taking the social media to punish her daughter? Some critics dished out their opinions on the matter. Others stand with Denise Abbott, who used Facebook to discipline her teenage daughter for having bad manners.
Abbott, a mom of a 13-year-old Ava Abbott told NBC on Wednesday that raising her teenage daughter is a challenge. “You have to adapt your parenting skills with the times,” she said. (Would you buy that?) But the Ohio mom also added that she has no regret for what she did as far as her daughter learned a lesson.
Mrs. Abbott decided to ban her daughter from using social media. She changed her daughter’s profile page with a red “X” across her mouth. Some words are also written across the photo: "I do not know how to keep my mouth shut. I am no longer allowed on Facebook or my phone. Please ask why. My mom says I have to answer everyone that asks."
“Guess what Mrs. Abbott - you signed up to be a parent. There is no easy 'click of a button' way out of it,” said kirby, a Chiago Now blogger. “It's a lot more difficult to find an appropriate punishment and actually stick with it, than to act like a child and try to "get back" at them for being mean to you,” she added.
The following are some of the top comments from a post in Huffington Post:
“I as a parent believe in whippings( and i said whippings not beating there's a diffrence) and I stand behind this mother and what she did. No you can not do this with all kids or all situations that’s why as a parent, you need to know what your child can and cannot handle. And sometimes public humiliation does work for unruly kids.”-joraine
“Well, it seems hard to criticize in light of the fact that it worked. Things like facebook are privileges not rights. If it is abused then mom has every right to take it away.”-Greg BIS
Obviously, it really worked because Ava learned her valuable lesson. In her email to NBC, Ava said "I feel like I deserved it because I was mean to my mom and spoke disrespectful to her in front of my friends."
But blogger kirby added that Facebook is a social media site for people to interact. NOT a place where you can humiliate your child.
“I don't have an opinion one way or the other on whether this was a fitting punishment, but have we really come to a point where national criticism is a requirement on who decides if you're a good parent or not? No parent behaves perfectly in all situations. Thankfully, we have the internet to judge everyone and feel superior to those we deem not worthy.”-Anella Harmeyer
“This mother is absolutely wrong to do that. This is the modern era. Girls have rights and the mother is teaching her daughter the wrong things by doing this to her.”-staceylace
“Honestly, who are you guys kidding? Discipline is the only answer? How about teaching them by example, by being a person worthy of respect, from the beginning? By publicly humiliating her daughter, she basically just taught her that this form of psycho-social attack is an acceptable form of punishment/retribution. I'm sure she'll be happy about that when her daughter "cyberbullies" the people who hurt her in the future.”- Veluriel
Mrs. Abbott also told NBC that she thinks her daughter was fit to handle the punishment. She accepted all criticisms regarding the way she disciplined her daughter just like the North Carolina father, who shot his daughter’s laptop after posting disrespectful message about her parents. And the father admitted to reporters that he did not regret his actions at all.
Dear readers, if you are a parent, how do you discipline your child? You may share by leaving your comments below and let other parents learn from your parenting skills.