It's tragic when a friend or co-worker loses a loved one . . . and it's always hard to know what to say.
So to make sure you don't say something dumb or insensitive during someone's time of need, there's a new website to help you out.
WordsThatComfort.com gives you tips on the right thing to say or write, to make sure that a grieving person admires you for being so sensitive and eloquent.
The site includes special cases, like what to say to a friend who gets diagnosed with cancer, to a friend who loses an estranged parent, or if you're writing a sympathy note when you never met the deceased person.
Among the things they suggest you do to fake the right level of concern are:
Don't start writing right away. Take notes on how hearing the news made you feel.
Write a story recalling a time that the deceased person's unique qualities touched your life. Try to find a story the grieving person has never heard.
Try to put yourself in the shoes of the grieving person, and show you know how they're feeling, so they won't feel alone in their grief.
Take the time to get it right, even if it means sending it days or weeks after the death.